"a branch of psychology that studies changes in human behavior from early life to death" according to Dictionary.com. Although Developmental psychology isn't an interest of mine, I will do my best to provide some good information concerning this topic.
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| What is the relationship between you and your mother? |
questions that pertain to my analysis of my own experience with the field:
"The Developing Parent" by Marissa L. Diehner
1.Reflect on the way you were raised. Consider the parenting behaviors (e.g., rules, discipline strategies, warmth, and support) used in your household when you were a child. Why do you think your parents behaved this way? How do these factors fit with the influences on parenting described here? Provide specific examples of multiple influences on parenting.
My mother spent a lot of time with my sister and me. She wanted to bond with us because she never had that experience of bonding positively with her parents. Her strong sense of unity has influenced me to be careful about my possible future relationships with my potential spouse because I want to have a husband that will be fiercely loyal to me so that we will be bonded for the rest of our lives.
As far as parental factors go, my mother exhibited mostly positive ones such as low anxiety and low negativity through her encouragement for us to pursue our academic goals. On the flip side, however, she doesn't care for socializing very much which I believe is a major cause of my own introverted nature.
"Attachment Through the Life Course" by R. Chris Fraley
1.What kind of relationship did you have with your parents or primary caregivers when you were young? Do you think that had any bearing on the way you related to others (e.g., friends, relationship partners) as you grew older?
I never had a strong relationship with a father figure growing up because my biological parents divorced when I was 2 years old and my stepdad (when I was 2-10 years old) was never emotionally close with me or my sister. My current stepdad does his best to fill in the role of a care provider and a father, and I appreciate it. On the other hand, I've lived with my mother for most of my life. She always made sure that we were taken care of and that we spent a lot of time together.
I don't necessarily believe that the relationship I had with my parents in childhood impacts my friendships now. I have friends who are guys, and I have friends who are girls. I do think that I'm more independent than most people when it comes to relationships, however, because I was never anchored to a father in my early childhood. I have yet to be in a serious romantic relationship, so I am not sure how that whole scenario would play out.
4.Some people, despite reporting insecure relationships with their parents, report secure, well-functioning relationships with their spouses. What kinds of experiences do you think might enable someone to develop a secure relationship with their partners despite having an insecure relationship with other central figures in their lives?
I think that the people who don't have secure relationships with their parents are actively trying to find secure relationships with other people, and they work hard to make it happen. Someone can develop secure relationships with their partner if they go through bonding experiences together (like disaster situations, hardships, and doing activities together). The reason why someone might not have been close with their parents could be that these bonding experiences were either always negative or they were none existent. Having positive bonding experiences will lead to secure relationships.
Bye for Now!
Sources
Attachment Through the Life Course
Dictionary.com
The Developing Parent
As far as parental factors go, my mother exhibited mostly positive ones such as low anxiety and low negativity through her encouragement for us to pursue our academic goals. On the flip side, however, she doesn't care for socializing very much which I believe is a major cause of my own introverted nature.
3.What type of parent do you envision yourself becoming? If you are a parent, how do you parent your child/children? How do you think this is similar to or different than the way you were raised? What influences exist in your life that will make you parent differently from your own parents?
I believe that I am most likely to be a stricter parent than most if I do get the chance to have children. I would make sure that my children understood the consequences of certain actions, but I would also make sure that they could have a consistent and stable environment to live so they could feel safe in a community. I want them to be able to have that structure in their lives so that they can build a future for themselves before they leave home to go to college.
The fact that I am focusing heavily on my school work seems to predict that I will be late in having a romantic relationship of any sort, thus setting me apart from my mother (who didn't go to college for an extended amount of time and married my biological father at the age of 21). If I do become a parent, I will be much older and have more experience than my mother did when she had us (I was born when she was 23 years old).
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| Every interaction is important to the bonding process. |
1.What kind of relationship did you have with your parents or primary caregivers when you were young? Do you think that had any bearing on the way you related to others (e.g., friends, relationship partners) as you grew older?
I never had a strong relationship with a father figure growing up because my biological parents divorced when I was 2 years old and my stepdad (when I was 2-10 years old) was never emotionally close with me or my sister. My current stepdad does his best to fill in the role of a care provider and a father, and I appreciate it. On the other hand, I've lived with my mother for most of my life. She always made sure that we were taken care of and that we spent a lot of time together.
I don't necessarily believe that the relationship I had with my parents in childhood impacts my friendships now. I have friends who are guys, and I have friends who are girls. I do think that I'm more independent than most people when it comes to relationships, however, because I was never anchored to a father in my early childhood. I have yet to be in a serious romantic relationship, so I am not sure how that whole scenario would play out.
4.Some people, despite reporting insecure relationships with their parents, report secure, well-functioning relationships with their spouses. What kinds of experiences do you think might enable someone to develop a secure relationship with their partners despite having an insecure relationship with other central figures in their lives?
I think that the people who don't have secure relationships with their parents are actively trying to find secure relationships with other people, and they work hard to make it happen. Someone can develop secure relationships with their partner if they go through bonding experiences together (like disaster situations, hardships, and doing activities together). The reason why someone might not have been close with their parents could be that these bonding experiences were either always negative or they were none existent. Having positive bonding experiences will lead to secure relationships.
Bye for Now!
Sources
Attachment Through the Life Course
Dictionary.com
The Developing Parent
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